The “girl” thing.

January 27, 2009


You know, female problems. Yeesh, no! Not that.

What I mean is the issues that surround being a girl, particularly a tanking girl in this game we love. The problem isn’t as severe as it once was, there are a helluva lot more girls playing games now (even crazy shooter games like Halo). Really, the issues are some of the same things that come up in real, live, day-to-day interactions between people as well as some web-specific ones that come with being a girl playing a male toon.

As far as being a girl in general goes, I think the whole mess was more than adequately covered by people like Gun Lovin’ Dwarf Chick. There are a lot more of us and it’s not necessary to stand up before the people you meet to say, “Hi, I’m “GnarcFntsyNam” and I…am a girl.” The internet, however, is a pretty faceless place, and nobody actually knows who you are which can cause some unfortunate assumptions later on.

Ultimately, the simplist and most forgivable of these is pronoun confusion but a bad assumption could go anywhere from there to wiping a raid by speaking in Vent, or perhaps the worst: someone assuming you’re a guy, everyone else in the party are guys, so this is “guy time” and we can say whatever pre-women’s-lib diarrhea of the mouth should happen to issue forth under “John Gabriel’s Internet Fuckwad Theory“. No, stuff like this doesn’t happen often, but it does happen. And it frequently pisses me off.

Generally speaking, my rules are as follows:

1. Friends know who I am.

2. Guild members*know who I am.

3. PuGs can know that I’m a damn good tank, and the people I’m with will refer to me as “he”.

4. Everyone in world chat channels is male until proven otherwise, by the great ordaining power of idiotic internet assumptions.

*Guild members know who I am unless they forget. It happens.

I will make a confession though. When I joined Heroes and we were just starting to set up weekly Kara runs (Damn, it feels like ‘back in the day’ already, doesn’t it?) I intentionally put off getting a mic. I was tanking and unfamiliar with the instance, but I just couldn’t bring myself to get a microphone.

See, it’s one of the stupid unspoken laws of gaming that girls ARE healers, girls MAY be dps, but girls AREN’T tanks. Apparently getting horrible permenant battle scars on your FACE is a thing for guys to do. Honestly, I don’t care if girls tank (it would be absolutely rediculous if I did, no?) but they just don’t tend to or come forward about it. The first time I ever went to an instance with a tank who’s toon was female it made me smile for a week, even though I knew ‘she’ was played by a ‘he’.

For all I know half the tanks out there could be girls under those buckets, I’m not the one claiming to have good data on who is what. I’m just calling ’em as I see ’em. Whenever I tank, I feel like I’m actively spitting in the eye of Status Quo. It makes me all warm and fuzzy inside…


One comment

  1. I honestly didn’t know there was a sexual divide for tanks. Come to think of it, I’ve never seen a decent male healer. I guess a divide like this exists in healing. I kinda don’t pay attention anyway. You’re the best tank I know, and I’ll heal you through hell and high water.

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